Anti-Potty Trainer

29 Mar
March 29, 2012

I am asked all the time if Max is potty trained.  He just turned three this month and no he is not.  He uses the potty before, during or after bath time but has no desire besides that yet.  I talked with my friend Julie who is one of my mommy mentors, and I did what she did to prepare for the training.  We went out and bought the portable potty for whatever room he’ll go in and we purchased fun new undies!  Sponge Bob, Mickey Mouse and Donald Duck.  We are using up our last case of diapers and were going to start then.  Except there’s one thing.  I don’t want to do it!!

Once you start the process, you have to stick to it and be super consistent.  There’s no more, wait 5 minutes please, or I’ll do it in a second.  It’s going to have to be whenever he says or me offering him the chance every half hour (or however you’re supposed to do it).  Remember that I’m chasing two other rascals around at the same time and sometimes a #2 can take a child up to half an hour!  That means more work for me and a lot of cheerleading to do.  I think I am also afraid that he is not going to take to it, and I’m going to have even more laundry than I already have to deal with.  Let me tell you that laundry in this house is NO JOKE.Anti Potty Trainer

I realize that all my reasons are selfish and I know that I will have to curb that once the process starts.  I’m just pointing out the fact that not every parent is on board welcoming the next step.  I’m not in a competition with all the other mothers to potty train my child.  And come to think of it, if the case empties and I don’t feel like he’s quite ready….we’re going to buy another case.  That’s right, I said it.

It’s funny how when parents get together, they start naming off what their children do and what stage they are at.  But in a competitive way.  It’s kind of weird when you realize what they’re doing right away since you don’t feel like you have to partake in adding to the conversation because you don’t care to compete.  I felt that competitive nature with my first child, but now, I realize that a lot of parents do it, and it doesn’t bother me anymore.  I like to ask people about their experiences and for their wisdom, but by no means do I feel like I have to top them in any way.  Not anymore.  And boy, I’m so glad because it can get exhausting!

So, we have tried to see how Max feels about using the potty at other times of the day, and he’s complied a couple of times.  But it was a fleeting moment because he is back to hiding in corners and coming out when he’s ready to be changed.  He tells me he needs a new diaper, and no guessing game for me!  Nice!  I think we are getting a little closer to this next stage because he is starting to want to wear his big boy undies.  He usually wears them over his diapers though, but that’s a good step, right?!  I’m fine with it, and I think it’s funny.  Max has adjusted very well thus far, and I am happy with going at his own pace.  As long as he’s potty trained when the twinnies are!Anti Potty Trainer

My mommy mentor Julie, has 4 kids and she was potty training left and right, a total pro, having her kids trained early style like by age two.  Maybe I will be a pro after my first is trained and have a little more confidence in the process.  Either way, it will happen soon enough and then I’ll be training them on some other life skill.  Oh, I’ve already been thinking about the drug and alcohol talk already.  How do you have that talk?  You have to have it somewhat early nowadays right?  That’s another post for another year!  I will have to relish in my three year old tasks for now and you know what?  After all that, I kind of feel like I’m a step closer to being ready for potty training myself.
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14 replies
  1. Farm, Foodie and Fitness says:

    It gets easier once you start. Think of all the money you’ll save from not having those diapers at least for Max! I made a basket for Ly and when she went on the potty she got to choose a prize. I had everything from stickers to bubbles and she was trained in 3 weeks! Now at night is another story. She just wears a pull up under her princess undies and sometimes she’s dry and sometimes she’s not! It can be a pain but it is actually a lot easier once they get going! Good Luck!

    • hecticharmony says:

      Yea, I figured it would be. I’ve heard of most parents doing the pull ups at night, and then I’ve heard of going cold turkey no more diapers. I was gonna do the cold turkey, but I think that stresses me out too much. I’ve heard it can be confusing for them, but on the other hand, it might take a while for them to get used to knowing when and how to get up at night. I remember peeing the bed when I was little and I slept through having that feeling. It was too late. So, we’ll see.

  2. Danielle says:

    Love your blog =) I hated potty traing my first son. I tried to do it too early and it jsut frustrated us both. I did every single thing that the books tell you NOT to do! It was awful ( I wrote SEVERAL blogs about that process!) Then one day he just refused to wear a diaper and that was that!

    Now I’m waiting until my second son shows me EVERY sign of readiness before I start. He’ll probably just end up training himself cause I’m so reluctant to do it!

    Good Luck!

  3. Alexa Jeppi says:

    There is no right age…there is the right time! Let Max let you know. Some kids are nervous about this big step so don’t push it. When they see you frustrated they can easily get anxious about the whole process. Just dance around like a nut everytime HE decides to use the potty. I would take off their dirty diaper & dtop out in their potty & cheer ttats where it should be.

  4. Laurie Cooper says:

    I definitely agree to wait on him! He’ll do it when he’s ready! I had a sticker chart that helped with Mila for 1 day (then she couldn’t care less about them)…then I rewarded her with little zoo animals. She was potty trained within 8 days I believe but it was our 3rd or 4th attempt…it’s crazy how much pressure we feel to reach the potty training milestone. Don’t stress about it and it will all fall into place when the time is right. ;)

    • hecticharmony says:

      Thanks Laurie! I have made peace with this milestone. I bought the new case of diapers and we are still letting him use the potty when he wants. We are starting to have poopy diaper dialogue with him now and how they cause rashes (which he is very afraid of) and how if he didn’t wear a diaper, he wouldn’t have to worry about that. I don’t want to put pressure on him about something that will come naturally sooner or later. :)

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  8. Gwen says:

    Just let him stay in diapers trying to force potty training is wrong ! potty training should never be forced on a child and doing so is flat out barbaric. if he asks you for potty training fine but if not don’t force it on him. the world isn’t going to blow up if he never gets potty trained and it wont ruin his life either . putting pressure on him and forcing him to conform however will that type of thing can cause emotional scares that im sure he will thank you for in therapy. stop potty training if hes happier in diapers then fine that’s what matters is his happiness. you can live a perfectly happy well adjusted life without being potty trained and forcing it on you children like some potty Nazi is only going to make things worse.


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