I am asked all the time if Max is potty trained. He just turned three this month and no he is not. He uses the potty before, during or after bath time but has no desire besides that yet. I talked with my friend Julie who is one of my mommy mentors, and I did what she did to prepare for the training. We went out and bought the portable potty for whatever room he’ll go in and we purchased fun new undies! Sponge Bob, Mickey Mouse and Donald Duck. We are using up our last case of diapers and were going to start then. Except there’s one thing. I don’t want to do it!!
Once you start the process, you have to stick to it and be super consistent. There’s no more, wait 5 minutes please, or I’ll do it in a second. It’s going to have to be whenever he says or me offering him the chance every half hour (or however you’re supposed to do it). Remember that I’m chasing two other rascals around at the same time and sometimes a #2 can take a child up to half an hour! That means more work for me and a lot of cheerleading to do. I think I am also afraid that he is not going to take to it, and I’m going to have even more laundry than I already have to deal with. Let me tell you that laundry in this house is NO JOKE.
I realize that all my reasons are selfish and I know that I will have to curb that once the process starts. I’m just pointing out the fact that not every parent is on board welcoming the next step. I’m not in a competition with all the other mothers to potty train my child. And come to think of it, if the case empties and I don’t feel like he’s quite ready….we’re going to buy another case. That’s right, I said it.
It’s funny how when parents get together, they start naming off what their children do and what stage they are at. But in a competitive way. It’s kind of weird when you realize what they’re doing right away since you don’t feel like you have to partake in adding to the conversation because you don’t care to compete. I felt that competitive nature with my first child, but now, I realize that a lot of parents do it, and it doesn’t bother me anymore. I like to ask people about their experiences and for their wisdom, but by no means do I feel like I have to top them in any way. Not anymore. And boy, I’m so glad because it can get exhausting!
So, we have tried to see how Max feels about using the potty at other times of the day, and he’s complied a couple of times. But it was a fleeting moment because he is back to hiding in corners and coming out when he’s ready to be changed. He tells me he needs a new diaper, and no guessing game for me! Nice! I think we are getting a little closer to this next stage because he is starting to want to wear his big boy undies. He usually wears them over his diapers though, but that’s a good step, right?! I’m fine with it, and I think it’s funny. Max has adjusted very well thus far, and I am happy with going at his own pace. As long as he’s potty trained when the twinnies are!
My mommy mentor Julie, has 4 kids and she was potty training left and right, a total pro, having her kids trained early style like by age two. Maybe I will be a pro after my first is trained and have a little more confidence in the process. Either way, it will happen soon enough and then I’ll be training them on some other life skill. Oh, I’ve already been thinking about the drug and alcohol talk already. How do you have that talk? You have to have it somewhat early nowadays right? That’s another post for another year! I will have to relish in my three year old tasks for now and you know what? After all that, I kind of feel like I’m a step closer to being ready for potty training myself.